t’s been the year of the butt since at least 2014, by my conservative estimate, and yet we are no closer to actually understanding our own asses. Society is good at visually appreciating butts and writing catchy songs about butts, but still not so great at understanding how we might derive physical pleasure from our own butts—especially when it comes to the prostate.
There’s a reason why some trans women call the prostate their G-spot. Much like the G-spot, the prostate is an internal pleasure point that, if located and stimulated well, can dial your partner’s orgasm up to 11. “Obviously, sometimes you can have a great penis orgasm,” says sex toy inventor and Hot Octopuss founder Adam Lewis, “But I would say on average [a prostate orgasm] is a much more intense experience, lasts longer, and would be more heightened than your traditional orgasm.”
Stimulating the prostate—whether that’s through massage, sex toys, and/or pegging— is a little like a slow-dancing. You can slow dance by yourself, but it’s probably easier to slow dance with another person. With that in mind, I asked Lewis and sex and relationships advisor Lianne Young to give some tips on how you can give your partner a prostate orgasm.